GroundedPosted: April 15, 2011
So it’s the middle of April, and the end of the school year is fast approaching. With the arrival of spring, it feels like the final dash for the finish line. I am suddenly a person tasked with helping to get all sorts of things to happen: preschool yearbook, fundraisers, field trips, end-of-year gifts and parties, kindergarten orientation playdates, town festivals. I also just became a member of the executive board of the PTA at Kate’s school.
This is the kind of thing that used to make me lose sleep: lots of stuff that all had to get done at once. Despite the fact that I’m completely organized and probably the opposite of a procrastinator — seemingly the perfect candidate — in the past I often avoided signing up for such projects, because I knew they’d make me feel crazy and out of control.
But I don’t feel that way anymore. Perhaps it’s the “presence” part of my “pose” mantra for the year. But I’m completely able to focus on what’s in front of me at the moment, deal with roadblocks in a much less than pessimistic way, let things roll off my back when it’s clear they are not worth stressing over, and keep my perspective — this stuff is actually fun.
It feels pretty great. I feel centered enough that despite my dad’s death and everything surrounding that, all the practical issues in my day-to-day (it’s not easy managing the social schedules of two friendly little girls!), and all this additional hooplah — I remain grounded.
It’s funny that the word grounded has some negative connotations. When a kid gets in trouble, he or she is often grounded. When a plane has technical problems and can’t take off, it’s grounded. In fact, some synonyms of the word (yes, I’m reading the dictionary again) are beached, aground, and stranded. But the definition itself is lovely, positively aspirational, really: “mentally and emotionally stable: admirably sensible, realistic, and unpretentious.”
Some serious leg-strength poses in yoga today. I really love standing poses. I love how strong I feel — how strong I am. It’s true: A strong physical foundation makes for a relaxed mind.